An excerpt from the book:
As women, we are given a great gift. Our purity. And everything that makes us who we are emotionally—- our feminine nature, our sensitivity, our vulnerability, and our desire to give ourselves fully to one man——is part of that gift. Our purity is a treasure. It is so much more than just our physical virginity it starts with who we are on the inside. It is like a priceless pearl, tucked safely away in a protective shell, growing and becoming more beautiful with time.
In my dating relationships, I damage my precious pearl of purity. I felt dirty and used because of it. But the damage didn't happen when I " went a little too far" physically. Giving away this treasure started the moment I gave away my heart and emotions to men who were never meant to receive that gift. I had been careless with my treasure. I had allowed my heart to become battered and broken.
I used to think that the unbearable devastation of "breaking up" with a boyfriend was just a natural part of the dating process. But there was nothing natural about it! It was a pain God never meant for me to experience. The valuable and delicate pearl of me purity had been too soon from its protective shell, then tossed back, damaged and bruised.
How true are those words? We live in a world where its okay to call a guy your boyfriend after one date. It's acceptable to date as many boys as you want and flirt as if there is not another care in the world. Flirtation and casual touches may seem innocent but they are tarnishing the heart that God intended for only one other person. The sooner we embrace the idea that we are made for one person and rely on God to bring that person to us the happier we'll become.
When I read this book and kissed dating goodbye it changed my life for the better. I went from wanting "that " relationship in my early 20's that everyone else had to a person in my late 20's who is falling deeper and deeper in love with my God. It's like I told my girls last night when we were discussing the Proverbs 31 woman, if a guys wants to find me then he has to find God first. As the saying goes "A woman should be so lost in God, that a man needs to seek Him in order to find her". That is my philosophy during this season of life. I desire that the first I kiss my future spouse is when I stand before him at the altar proclaiming our life as one. Does it make me sound crazy? Maybe so but that's okay b/c I know God will give me the desires of my heart if I remain faithful to him.
Here are a few more quotes from the book that will make you longing for more, lol :
- God: "I know you better than you know yourself, and I am perfectly able to bring this man into your life in my own time, in my own way... and I don't need your help."
- Only leaning on our Faithful Father, and longing to please Him with everything we do will set the stage for a beautiful romance.
- Immature love always compares and struggles with the security of the relationship.
- How can we know that your love story will last for a lifetime? The answer lies in the kind of love upon which you choose to build the relationship. If we build it on the gushy stuff or base it on physical attraction, we most certainly are headed for divorce, coz one day you may wake up and realize those feelings aren't there anymore.
Till next time.
Jordan
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